ONE little MOMMA: Who Doesn't Want More "I Can Be Like Her" Moments

Who Doesn't Want More "I Can Be Like Her" Moments

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SWEATER- H&M ($10 right now!) // JEANS- Target // SHOES- Nordstrom (25% off right now) // SUNNIES- Ray Ban // EARRINGS- Sassy Brassy large Nickel & Suede // BAG- Nordstrom (sold out) 
Photo credit- Sarah Sweeney

Women talk a lot about balance and I think there is a reason for it. We all want it and it's hard to achieve. Especially in the time of life that I'm in. If the kids and I look put together and make it somewhere close to on time, you can bet the house isn't clean or picked up. Its very likely to resemble the wreckage of a recent tornado. If I've blogged five days in a row, then N&S has had less of my attention and I haven't worked out not once. It's something I'm always working on.

Blogging/the internet is specifically part of my world where I feel like there is a thin line that I try to walk. And it really is one that can be hard to balance. That is the line of being inspirational and being unattainable. 

In the candy coated blogging and Instagram world we all know we see a lot of 'perfect'. There are so many wonderfully talented women in the world who are amazing at taking photographs, styling images and sharing beautiful things. And we all love to follow those accounts and to just take it all in! I love finding new beautiful accounts or blogs that are creative and shockingly talented. ...But I also kinda hate it because sometimes there are no doses of reality in anything some of those pretty accounts publish. So while their picture perfect accounts leave me inspired, I also am kind of left feeling like they have it easier than me. And maybe my chances of being like them are squat because I have four busy kids and I don't have a brand new house and I certainly don't have extra time. 

But the opposite isn't really what I'm looking for either. I love following my friends and family on social media and I don't care about how beautiful their photos are. I just love keeping up with them! But if I'm going to go follow a random stranger on Instagram, it won't be someone with a feed full of dark photos of real life, kids in diapers and a messy house. Yes, that may be my current reality, but I don't need heavy dose of it from someone else!  

So this is something I'm always thinking about. How to be real and also how to be myself. Myself is someone who is always trying to do more, be better, get better, work harder and strengthen my skills. I love finding the perfect shoes or putting together a perfect outfit. I love styling and designing for N&S and creating beautiful things. I love sharing all of that. Myself is also someone who can't keep up with her housework, overcame an eating disorder, endured a miscarriage, forgets to brush her teeth and swears at her husband. 

So if I'm doing a good job, then you can be here reading OLM and get inspiration for an outfit or pin a hair tutorial and also feel like you see yourself in me in the best possible way. I think we all need more "I thought it was just me" and "me too!" moments here on the internet. If we did I think we would have a lot more "I do can that too!" moments as well!
 

14 comments:

  1. Loved this post. I do daycare from my home and often fall in the trap of oh look at so and so they have it all and are all put together . I love your blog the best because it's real live, kids, messes, a business but most of all it's inspirational . I find it easier to stay stylish in a relaxed mom way and a true inspiration to get moving everyday for myself and my family . Love you spirit that goes into the post and your outfits and hair make me just go for it ! Have a great weekend

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    1. Thank you! I agree that relaxed mom style is the easiest and feels the best! Have a great weekend too!

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  2. I totally agree that it's a thin line to walk. I want pretty pictures and pretty things, but I also want real life...you know? I think you're nailing it though :)

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  3. Love this simple, yet stylish look. Keep up the great work! You are doing an amazing job.

    Liv

    www.livforstyle.net

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  4. I love this post, Kilee!! As I have just began delving into the blogging world, I constantly find myself comparing my "not so great blog" to all the "amazing blogs"! One of yours is a blog that I consider amazing, btw. I love your style - I even cut my hair very similar to yours because its an inspirational "powerful woman" haircut!! Anyway, I think you're great, and thanks for sharing your transparency. Happy Friday!

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  5. Thanks for sharing this Kilee. You seriously have been an inspiration to me for many months as I'm figuring out the "balance" of being a stay at home mom and pursuing dreams outside of that role. I have frequently thought "how does she do all of this?", but I love that you share these kinds of posts regularly. It helps me know that I can grow into what I want to become, it doesn't happen over night, and no one can do it all. Love your blog and your style! (You also inspired my current long pixie ;-)

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  6. Thank you Kilee for being so honest! I, too, have battled (and OVERCOME!) multiple eating disorders. I enjoy fashion and fashion blogs, but I often find myself comparing myself to a blogger's Instagram feed. As bloggers, we may choose what we let others see. As a new blogger, I'm trying to change the mold and reveal that I'm human, I'm not perfect - just like you did here today. I recently wrote a post detailing my struggle with anorexia, binge-eating, and bulimia along with my full recovery story. I hope someone may relate to this vulnerability and find hope.
    You can find the post here http://letslookpresentable.com/2016/03/10/picture-timeline-of-my-eating-disorder-struggle/

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  7. I love this! This is one of the reasons I follow you and keep up with your blog. I love how real you are. I love that you put the good and the bad. Your inspiring because what you do is real. You are cute and fashionable, and pretty and successful and your also a mom with real struggles and you are brave enough to put it out there on the internet. Thank you for the way you blog and your awesome business and for showing the real life of success!

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  8. Thank you for being you and thank you for being real!

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  9. My life became devastated when my husband sent me packing, after 8 years that we have been together. I was lost and helpless after trying so many ways to make my husband take me back. One day at work, i was absent minded not knowing that my boss was calling me, so he sat and asked me what its was all about i told him and he smiled and said that it was not a problem. I never understand what he meant by it wasn't a problem getting my husband back, he said he used a spell to get his wife back when she left him for another man and now they are together till date and at first i was shocked hearing such thing from my boss. He gave me an email address of the great spell caster who helped him get his wife back, i never believed this would work but i had no choice that to get in contact with the spell caster which i did, and he requested for my information and that of my husband to enable him cast the spell and i sent him the details, but after two days, my mom called me that my husband came pleading that he wants me back, i never believed it because it was just like a dream and i had to rush down to my mothers place and to my greatest surprise, my husband was kneeling before me pleading for forgiveness that he wants me and the kid back home, then i gave Happy a call regarding sudden change of my husband and he made it clear to me that my husband will love me till the end of the world, that he will never leave my sight. Now me and my husband is back together again and has started doing pleasant things he hasn't done before, he makes me happy and do what he is suppose to do as a man without nagging. Please if you need help of any kind, kindly contact Happy for help and you can reach him via email: happylovespell2@gmail.com

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  10. Such a great outfit! I like your hair style!

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  12. My life became devastated when my husband sent me packing, after 8 years that we have been together. I was lost and helpless after trying so many ways to make my husband take me back. One day at work, i was absent minded not knowing that my boss was calling me, so he sat and asked me what its was all about i told him and he smiled and said that it was not a problem. I never understand what he meant by it wasn't a problem getting my husband back, he said he used a spell to get his wife back when she left him for another man and now they are together till date and at first i was shocked hearing such thing from my boss. He gave me an email address of the great spell caster who helped him get his wife back, i never believed this would work but i had no choice that to get in contact with the spell caster which i did, and he requested for my information and that of my husband to enable him cast the spell and i sent him the details, but after two days, my mom called me that my husband came pleading that he wants me back, i never believed it because it was just like a dream and i had to rush down to my mothers place and to my greatest surprise, my husband was kneeling before me pleading for forgiveness that he wants me and the kid back home, then i gave Happy a call regarding sudden change of my husband and he made it clear to me that my husband will love me till the end of the world, that he will never leave my sight. Now me and my husband is back together again and has started doing pleasant things he hasn't done before, he makes me happy and do what he is suppose to do as a man without nagging. Please if you need help of any kind, kindly contact Happy for help and you can reach him via email: happylovespell2@gmail.com

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