ONE little MOMMA: The One Thing That Keeps Momma Sane

The One Thing That Keeps Momma Sane

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This is my house today. I woke up to this, picked it all up, and it looks like this again at what is now 4:30 in the afternoon. Toys and throw pillows all over the floor. Backpacks, shoes, crumbs. Dirty lunch dishes, a vacuum, kids on the iPad, and open cupboards. I would usually pick it all up again (in hyper speed because baby is asleep, I have dinner to make and a very short window of time to work in), but guess what it will look like again after the kids get in bed? This. 
It's the endless cycle that is being a mom that there are always wet clothes in the the washing machine ready to be dried and clothes in the dryer that need to be taken out and a gigantic pile of clothes that need to be folded and put away. Most of the tasks that are required when taking care of kids and a house are constantly on repeat and constantly being undone. There is no done with the dishes or done with the crumbs or done with clutter. 

And part of me can appreciate and love it. I love my kids being little, and I would despise not having them around to make messes for me. I mean really—what would I do with my time?? I love them and I can even love the messes they make. But I don't love feeling like that is all I do. And with a newborn I'm back to being held hostage by little ones. I think most mommas can relate to that feeling. It's hard. I'm struggling with it today.

I think you know by now how much I like to go-go-go and do-do-do. I have a lot on my plate, and I like it that way. Lately there have been a lot of days where I struggle with feeling like everything I did got undone and that tomorrow I will wake up and do all of it again (while it's being undone!). Yes, the eating Oreos while brushing your teeth joke applies here. 
So what to do? My mom got some advice a long time ago that she passed on to me, and I'm trying to remember it right now. Do one thing every day that can't get undone. Create something, write something, call someone, move one step closer on a goal. And I think there is magic in that. Today, writing this post is my one thing that can't get undone. I'm typing out my thoughts and sending them out into the world, and fortunately or unfortunately, that can't be undone. :) 

So if this phase of life sounds all too familiar, try my mom's tip. Think of something each day that can't be undone and make it a priority. It won't take away the repeat chores or tasks, but it will give you some sanity. It will give you something to think back on and feel good about at the end of the day. You'll be building something inside yourself and still enjoying the feeling that we all yearn for—to be improving and moving forward. 

What did you do today that couldn't be undone? What are you going to do tomorrow?

18 comments:

  1. OMGoodness! Thank you thank you thank you! I see this really slim (new baby, argggg), pretty, chic, current, great wardrobe, great hair (I have ombré hair thanx to your tutorial), great garage door ;-) etc... And although I love those, I do feel like there is a bit of envy inside me whilst scrolling. It's a good thing my favourite colour is green! But this, this post...This picture stopped me scrolling and "view full picture". I zoomed in, went over Every. Single. Inch of this picture up close. I know it sounds creepy but it was for my benefit to see that real life happens and that just because one of my (control neat freak) friends told me that she breaks out in a rash every time she comes to my house (I know right?!!!) I've been really unforgiving to myself ever since. Until now! Cheers Mama! (Does putting up a shelf count as something that can't be undone if I use wall plugs?!) Robyn x

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  2. Thank you for this awesome post. So timely and so true. I am the momma of 3 little boys and the chaos is constant! It is especially hard in that newborn stage where everyone.needs.momma.right.now. Thank you for posting this "real life" truth - it is so encouraging to know others are in the same stage of life. Loving it and yet tired at the same time. I think you are doing awesome! I love your mom's advice and I am going to try to take that and use it in my crazy life.

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  3. This was just beautiful! You are not alone in the messes of being a momma. It is the bestest job in the world, but also the hardest. Love, loved the advice. Thank you! The best part of the above picture is the two little cuties pressed up against the counter. I can just hear them chatting.

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  4. I love that! Such a beautiful idea. P.S. I'm super excited you are opening a local shop. I will def be by to pick up the earrings that I hinted (told) my husband to buy me for Christmas.

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  5. Thanks for posting this! I have four littles ranging from six to twelve weeks and I'm in the thick of it with you. My in-loves stopped by unexpectedly tonight and I had to force myself to not apologize and clean everything up while they were trying to visit with me. This is just for a season, and it is honestly a short one. Today I planned the next two months of my son's kindergarten curriculum, and I colored in my grownup coloring book while my kids worked on their own pages. Both of those things helped me feel like I accomplished something and filled up my own tank a bit. :)

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  6. Yes. This. Today I finally made it to the post office to return some zenni optical glasses (prescription must have been wrong). It has been weighing down on me, and it is freezing to have it finally done. Something that can't be undone!

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  7. Yes. This. Today I finally made it to the post office to return some zenni optical glasses (prescription must have been wrong). It has been weighing down on me, and it is freezing to have it finally done. Something that can't be undone!

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  8. *sigh* Thanks. I thought about my day and the three hours spent helping my kids pick up the playroom and bedrooms will be undone all too soon, I know. But I can smile remembering reading a book with my little girl who is just learning to read and see her so happy that the letter sounds were actually making words! That will never be undone in my heart. <3. Also, my BFF is coming over tomorrow and we're going to do some Jillian Michaels. :)

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  9. Wonderful post, just what I needed to hear in this season of life. Thanks for sharing about "real" life!

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  10. Thank you. I've stopped following any blogs that don't inject some reality here and there. I do love looking at the cute outfits and beautiful pictures you post to get inspiration, but I love THIS more. It is a constant struggle for me to balance my OCD vision of how my house SHOULD look with the disaster of how it always ACTUALLY looks (which is like an episode of COPS). Solidarity!

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  11. A good, heartfelt prayer to our Heavenly Father is something that can't be undone....I like knowing that.

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  12. What a great word of advice! And hang in there, as you know it will get better. We all have those days...i have had that EXACT same vacuum and magnatile set on my floors, too! I am the same as you, I love the chaotic mess of having kids but also really relish order and a nice cleaned-up house. Days like yours is when I take 5 minutes to meditate and have a cup of tea...all while the mess sits around me. Keep doing what you're doing- each day begins anew.

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  13. This is excellent advice. Some evenings I stand at the sink washing dishes and I swear the kids are already on to getting out more dishes for their next snaclass and I feel like I'll be at that sink doing dishes forever. I remind myself that before I know it there will be just two of everything and that I should cherish it. And I do, but I don't. This is perfect to remember those days you feel like your living in a deja vu! Thank you!

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  14. This is excellent advice. Some evenings I stand at the sink washing dishes and I swear the kids are already on to getting out more dishes for their next snaclass and I feel like I'll be at that sink doing dishes forever. I remind myself that before I know it there will be just two of everything and that I should cherish it. And I do, but I don't. This is perfect to remember those days you feel like your living in a deja vu! Thank you!

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  15. Thank you Kilee for writing this brutally honest post; I feel exactly the way you do. I feel like I'm so busy and constantly doing things, but nothing ever gets done and the list of things that need doing doesn't get any shorter. I love your mom's advice, and today I actually put it into practice by framing an art print that I've had wrapped in plastic for years! I feel so accomplished. Thank you!

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  16. I read this post and I was just nodding my head in total agreement! I am a mama to two precious girls who are also wild ~ probably not like boys but still... I grab one (the 11 month old) off from climbing the bookshelves to turn around to find my two year old painting her body in peanut butter. Now that was a rough day! But, I loved your mom's advice. Today, I sat down and wrote in my journal. I love journalling but this month it just didn't seem to happen till today. Thank you for the truth. It feels good to know I am not the only mama to get overwhelmed with the continuous mess, cleanup, and do it again routine! Signed ~ MamaMann

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