ONE little MOMMA: What I Wore- Friday Night Date Night

What I Wore- Friday Night Date Night

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Lace trimmed sweater, Nickel & Suede Nude Leather earrings

Lace trimmed sweater, Nickel & Suede Nude Leather earrings

Lace trimmed sweater, Nickel & Suede Nude Leather earrings


Lace trimmed sweater, Nickel & Suede Nude Leather earrings

Lace trimmed sweater, Nickel & Suede Nude Leather earrings

We haven't always been successful at dating as a married couple and I'd say we are still working on it. We aren't consistent in going and there aren't many things we both like to do. Usually the pressure and expectation (on my end) of a "DATE" is what ends up ruining things. We end up fighting, I'm frustrated and the night gets wasted. It's taken 8 years, but I think I'm learning to chill out about date night finally.

Over past few months we've been participating in a date night co-op with two other couples. We each take a turn watching all of the kids one Friday a month and then get to go out two other Friday nights a month. Its been a good chance for us to have a few successful dates where the biggest hurdle is taken care of- childcare. Once the babysitting has been taken care of- there is the question of what to do? Lately we've had success expanding our definition of a date as well as doing the classic-but-they-work type of dates. Here are a few not-ground-breaking dates that have worked for us lately.

1. Dinner somewhere new. We finally tried a sushi place in town a few weeks back and it was yummy. We both like sushi but hadn't gone for a long time. We ended up talking business while we were there- but it was in a dream about the future sort of way and we both enjoyed it.
2. A movie. This is has has been our fall back for a long time because you don't have to talk to each other (ie: can't get in an arguement). I hate paying for movies in theaters, but getting out of the house together is worth paying for. Usually we can find a movie we both like versus finding a different activity that we both like.
3. Working out. We have started working out together recently and honestly I feel like its a date. The gym has childcare and if we do the same workout we get to spend an 45 min to an hour together. We used to do this in college when we were first married all of the time and so it feels good to go back and do something we used to enjoy together.
4. Starting an old TV series together. We have had luck with shows like 24 in the past where we can watch entire old seasons together. Lately we started Veronica Mars from season 1 and both really like it. We watch it at night on Amazon Prime while we work downstairs and its fun to have a running show that we watch together.
5.

I don't think we have a fifth yet. I'm not going to pretend we have a fabulous dating life or that we have the best relationship either. Dating is hard for us and well most things that we do together are. That is what happens when two opposites of opposites marry each other. But awesome things also happen- like super cool kids and creative business ideas.

I'd love to hear your date night tips! What has been successful for you? Do you have plans tonight?



// Outfit Details //
Sweater- Nu-Mod (sold out) (similar, similar)
Pants- Lucky Brand
Shoes- Old Navy
Earrings- Nickel & Suede
Clutch- Forever 21

12 comments:

  1. I married my total opposite and appreciate how honest you are about it. It's so hard sometimes! I want to scream and be like, "LIKE WHAT I LIKE" but then I have to appreciate what he likes I don't. It's maddening sometimes. :) We have this thing we do where we sort of force each other into something fun one of us likes doing. It's become our way of saying "Get out of your shell and appreciate our differences". I'll plan the date night of something I really like doing and he'll tag along and learn to appreciate that. Or, I'll have him plan something I know he loves to do that I don't know much about and we meet in the middle and compromise. It's been amazing for us. I now appreciate football, chinese food and craft breweries more than I used to, and he has learned to appreciate cooking/baking, trying new restaurants and visiting art galleries. It's worked wonders for our relationship! Just knowing that he is happy makes me feel good.

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  2. My husband and I are pretty similar. I can imagine being opposites would be challenging.

    We're always wired up on our laptops/phones/ipads, so to even just pop in a movie and sit on the couch and watch it without anything else going on is kind of nice!

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  3. First off, I love the outfit - so cute. And then regarding date nights, I'll be honest. We rarely if ever do them. We were married for 9 years before our little boy came along and had plenty of time to enjoy each other and although we still love getting away to see a movie or eat dinner alone it just isn't a huge priority. Don't get me wrong we love to spend time together and have a great relationship but that just isn't the seaon of life we're in right now. I kind of feel like there's become this huge pressure to have date nights but after 15 years of marriage I don't think date nights are required for a healthy marriage. Just like with child rearing you figure out what works for you. We've actually had more luck lately with lunch dates while our little boy is in school, but that will end once our twins get here. ;)

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  4. Thanks for being so honest and open here! Married dating IS hard, we had a 6year old when we got married (my husband was a widower) and babysitting pretty much dried up instantly so there went date nigh :-) . I LOVE the idea of the date night co-op though, it brilliant! I need to try and figure that one out pronto!

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  5. I don't really have any ideas, but its hard for us too. Mostly bcuz we need 2 babysitters right now. Rob and I enjoy a lot of the same things, but there are a few things that he enjoys that takes me out of my shell. (Mountain biking and shooting... We'be only done those once each. He doesn't like plays as much as I do, but we do that once a year or so. I like the idea of trading off planning the activity (but I'm sure I'd worry abt if he liked it or not). Also I love to go out to eat, but he doesn't, so we don't do that every time. Mostly we have movie night at home when the kids are in bed...but it only counts if there's chocolate treats.





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  6. Man I love this. And seriously? That is Kevin and I to a "T" basically. It's nice to hear I'm not alone in these date-night-turned-fiasco situations. haha. I too am learning (trying SO HARD) to not freak out if things don't go my way. We started doing that babysitting trade off too, but haven't kept it up. I am kind of like a paranoid freak when it comes to my kids, and having other people watching them (at least peeps I don't know/new peeps). Which is weird because I used to babysit all the time when I was like 12...TWELVE! sheesh that just seems so young! :) Anyways, movies or tv shows are what we usually fall back on too at the end of the night or weekend. Right now we are watching The Flash and just finished The Blacklist.

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  7. I just found your blog the other day and already love it! I love how real you are here about date nights... I can totally relate to not having them go exactly as you think they will. What a great idea to trade off for child care. Just wanted to say hi and that you have a beautiful family. :)

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  8. This post was just what I needed. So nice to hear that date nights aren't always what we build them up to be especially when both people are complete opposites! I love going out to eat and my husband doesn't so date nights can be hard for us. Thanks for being so open and honest!

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  9. You are on fire with the lace! It looks great peeking out from under this sweater.
    Sami
    www.brightsunshinydays.com

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  10. I seriously love this honest post! I am always dreaming about a date night but then when the opportunity arises and presents itself I always end up frustrated hoping the hubs will make some suggestions or actually plan the event and when he doesn't show enthusiasm I end up annoyed. I've learned that reconnecting is the most important part of a "date" night...so even if that means we cook dinner together and talk about our days that works!

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  11. I just found your blog and I'm already obsessed with your super cute style and how honest you are in your writing. I love this post and can relate to the struggles of date night but bravo for continuing to try.

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