ONE little MOMMA: What I Wore - Palazzo Pants and the Nagging Wife

What I Wore - Palazzo Pants and the Nagging Wife

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Black tee, neutral palazzo pant and wedges

Black tee, neutral palazzo pant and wedges

Black tee, neutral palazzo pant and wedges

Black tee, neutral palazzo pant and wedges

Black tee, neutral palazzo pant and wedges

Can you tell I was totally bugged at my photographer as he was taking these photos? I can. (And yes that photographer is my husband.) I'm going to diverge from my normal 'real' talk topic of motherhood today because honestly marriage is what's been giving me grief this week. It is just tough to be married sometimes.

We are coming up on our eighth wedding anniversary and I can definitely say this last year has been our best ever. I haven't talked about it here much, and maybe I will in the future, but the first 6+ years of our marriage were pretty dang awful. We had some good times and made some awesome kids during those years, but they were also full of a lot of fighting and tears and marriage counseling. We have come SO far from those times in the last year and a half, but it's not perfect. Sometimes, like this past weekend, I start thinking about my mental list of "Why hasn't he...blah, blah, blah...yet?!?" and "When is he ever going to...blah, blah, blah?!?" And I get all worked up about all of the things about him that drive me crazy and just plain make me mad. I get impatient with what I want from him and our life together and I start nagging. I hate it, and I hate myself while I'm doing it. I know it's only making things worse. I know it is only making improvement from him and for myself harder. But I still do it. It is hard to push the reset button and move on after a weekend like that. The only thing that I know helps is to shift my focus to the things that I'm grateful for and to really look at how far we have come. We still have a ways to go and I know I'm pretty far from perfect myself.

Have you ever found yourself in a nagging habit? How do you try to get out of it?

// Outfit Details //
Shirt - GAP
Pants - Target
Shoes - Thrifted (Target)
Cuff - ONE little MOMMA




And thanks to everyone who entered last week's Boden giveaway! Cortney Fish is our winner!




21 comments:

  1. Oh girl. I could have written this. Marriage is hard hard hard. We're going on 14 years and some years are great and some just downright suck. I am a nagger. In counseling, we learned about the love languages. I nag about things I want, because acts of service are my language. But his are words of affirmation, and clearly, my nagging isn't fulfilling that. So yeah...that's definitely something we've had to (and still have to) work on. Every day.

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  2. Marriage is hard. But most days I look at mine and think, wow I am so lucky. I think the hard thing is looking past yourself and to the other person. But the hard work makes it so worth it. I don't think I am a nagger, but I do know I am a hover-er. I hover over him doing the dishes, and cleaning the bathroom, and doing the laundry, because he just doesn't "do it right". Or my version of how it should be done. While completely forgetting that he is doing me a favor by getting the chore done! It has taken several years of working on this to come to the point that he can do chores without me getting nervous. We are coming up on 8 years as well, but I like to think of how far we have come rather than how far we need to go. Happy anniversary! Hope you have a good day!

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  3. Marriage can definitely be hard, we are t perfect so marriages can't be either. I understand your frustration, we've all been there. Hope this week has been better!

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  4. Marriage is work! I think a lot of girls are more focused on the wedding instead of the marriage. It has it's ups & downs, but if you find the right one, it's always worth working for.

    P.S - I LOVE the outfit, I wish I could steal it. Does Target not carry that pant any longer?

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    1. I got some recently in the store!! They just arent online.

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  5. Marriage is definitely work and you have to realize that going in. I'm with this guy for the long haul. I better like all those quirks, because they aren't going away. I will be married for 19 years this December. He has really irritated me in those 19 years, but.....he's got my back, he thinks I'm perfect even with my crazy bossy self. I can tell him anything and he's going to love me, maybe not like me, but he will love me. Its hard, plan and simple, but its awesome too! Hang in there....really, hang in there. You get into a groove and next thing you know you are like, check us out...we are doing it, we are one of those couples that's going to make it the whole way...you just know it. Love the outfit!

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  6. Marriage is definitely work and you have to realize that going in. I'm with this guy for the long haul. I better like all those quirks, because they aren't going away. I will be married for 19 years this December. He has really irritated me in those 19 years, but.....he's got my back, he thinks I'm perfect even with my crazy bossy self. I can tell him anything and he's going to love me, maybe not like me, but he will love me. Its hard, plan and simple, but its awesome too! Hang in there....really, hang in there. You get into a groove and next thing you know you are like, check us out...we are doing it, we are one of those couples that's going to make it the whole way...you just know it. Love the outfit!

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  7. LOVE your outfit! Palazzo pants are my jam!

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  8. Love this post! Your outfit is incredible, as always, but your words about marriage were even better. I see so much of myself in those words. Thanks for the reminder to forgive and "reset" - I struggle with it.

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  9. Love the outfit! Love the make-up! And HOW did you get your hubby to agree to marriage counseling???

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  10. love those pants!!! I nag my husband sometimes and it just makes me feel awful, it is really hard being married, but 8 years high five to you! i am almost to the 4 year mark and it has not been all rosey, but that is what marriage is constantly working with eachother and improving :)

    carisa
    Bunnies and Pearls

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  11. Can I just say that I flipping LOVE your blog? You keep it real, are relate-able, are completely adorable (can I have your hair like yesterday please?!) and so honest. My husband and I truly struggled with our marriage too in the early days - like 3 years... - we are almost 5 in now and are in a better place than ever before, but I am constantly falling in that nagging place. I have to remember he is a human too, and I need to adjust my expectations and not put such a burden on him to live up to this ideal I have in my mind because he IS ideal for me, flaws and all. Those flaws of his, balance out mine and God clearly knew what he was doing when he brought us together. I need to keep trusting that every day. Thank you for sharing.
    Also, super cute pants. :)

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  12. My husband and I are celebrating our 10 year anniversary this year, and you're so right...it's so hard! We've struggled on and off for every single one of those 10 years. I nag, I yell, I do all the things I know I shouldn't. He does the same. Still, we make it work and neither of us would rather have it any other way.

    Oh, and I bought palazzo pants this morning, thinking of your blog! I hope I can style them as well as you do!

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  13. Totally LOVE you honesty in this post--I love getting to know bloggers and seeing that they all struggle with the same things as the average person! I am so glad you all have come so far and I could not tell you were annoyed hehe :) You look gorgeous--love these pants on you!

    Tori
    FashionBlingGirlyThings

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  14. You look a mile tall! Nice! I hear ya, marriage is HARD. Often times, harder than raising kids, if that's even possible. I find I'm in the worst moods right before that time of the month. Whenever I feel like I'm nagging my hubs, most likely in my head, I remind myself of all the things he DOES do and all the things *I* could do better too.

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  15. This is the realest thing I have read on a blog-probably ever! Thank you for this! My hubby of 4 years and I are far from perfect and its great to see it's not just me that's the nagging wife. ;) I feel like I can relate to you in so many ways and reading this just made you even more relate-able! I think for bloggers that is the best quality to have! There have been many blogs that I started out reading and it no matter how great their content is, if I cannot relate to them as people or feel like I don't know them, I stop reading before too long. Your doing great! Keep it up!

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  16. I can't believe I won! How exciting and thank you so much!

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  17. My husband and I dated and lived together for 6 years before we got married. We've been married almost three. So 9 years of living together. When I start thinking, "Why hasn't he. . ." or "Why can't he. . . " or "UGH, just stop doing. . .," I take a second to remind myself of all of the things I do that bug the crap out of him, yet he doesn't nag all the time. For example, I want him to change more diapers (of course), or put Lucy to bed at night so I don't have to waste that 1/2 hour routine and can go workout or something. But then I realize, he does the laundry. All of it. And folds it. And the dishes. Or when he doesn't do the dishes when I want them done, I remember that I let my dirty clothes pile up in the bathroom or on the bedroom floor which annoys the crap out of him!

    It's working for us so far. Not that I don't ever nag, I DO!! But I don't hang on to it for long, because I know he does wonderful things that I know other men wouldn't ever do!!

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  18. Ahhh! My goodness that outfit! Lovvve!

    My husband and I fought our entire engagement and the first year and a half of our marriage. There were lots of tears and lots of questioning our future but we are finally making things work. Marriage is tough tough stuff but I promise you are not alone in the dirty parts of marriage. Hopefully the good will outweigh the messy though!

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  19. YOUR PALAZZO PANTS IS VERY BEAUTIFUL AND IT LOOKS GOOD ON YOU

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